'Pivoting' is my Pathway to 'Feeling Better' ! Updated: April 6, 2018
What is Pivoting ?
When I am feeling stressed, for what ever reason, pivoting is a pathway for me to feel better than what I currently am ! Once I feel better,
I am then in a much better position to move forward in a beneficial way.
Pivoting is an internal mental process where I intentionally guide my thinking and my emotions in such a way that I can feel more and more positive when something unwanted or unpleasant enters my experience and 'causes'me to feel stressed.
When I am feeling stressed, for what ever reason, pivoting is a pathway for me to feel better than what I currently am ! Once I feel better,
I am then in a much better position to move forward in a beneficial way.
Pivoting is an internal mental process where I intentionally guide my thinking and my emotions in such a way that I can feel more and more positive when something unwanted or unpleasant enters my experience and 'causes'me to feel stressed.
In other words, it is an intentional internal journey, where I guide
my unpleasant thoughts and emotions along a path that leads me to more and more positive thoughts and emotions to relieve stress.
Pivoting works on all sources of stress, whether it comes from people, situations, circumstances, and/or my own internal 'Mind Chatter'.
my unpleasant thoughts and emotions along a path that leads me to more and more positive thoughts and emotions to relieve stress.
Pivoting works on all sources of stress, whether it comes from people, situations, circumstances, and/or my own internal 'Mind Chatter'.
Why learn about Pivoting ?
It helps us feel better . . . and feeling better is the fast-lane to abundance, good health, better relationships, and a happier life . . . not only for us, but everyone around us . . . because our 'feel good', as well as our 'feel stressed', affects a lot of other people and pets.
Sometimes we 'intentionally' want to make others upset because we think they deserve it or we want to somehow 'punish' them . . . but this is only the work of our 'Mind Chatter'; and when we fall into that trap we not only end up injuring the other person but we also harm ourselves as well as other innocent bystanders. It is most beneficial for us to learn both, how to Pivot first and then proceed to express ourselves calmly, candidly, and respectfully learning and applying 'Crucial Conversation' skills.
It helps us feel better . . . and feeling better is the fast-lane to abundance, good health, better relationships, and a happier life . . . not only for us, but everyone around us . . . because our 'feel good', as well as our 'feel stressed', affects a lot of other people and pets.
Sometimes we 'intentionally' want to make others upset because we think they deserve it or we want to somehow 'punish' them . . . but this is only the work of our 'Mind Chatter'; and when we fall into that trap we not only end up injuring the other person but we also harm ourselves as well as other innocent bystanders. It is most beneficial for us to learn both, how to Pivot first and then proceed to express ourselves calmly, candidly, and respectfully learning and applying 'Crucial Conversation' skills.
ow do I Pivot ?
I intentionally decide to ‘SHIFT MY ATTENTION’ away from the negativity aspect . . . and I choose to MOVE MY ATTENTION to something more positive . . . something (anything) more pleasant.
It sounds like a simple process when described, but it is often not nearly as easy to practice in the 'heat' of the moment. This is because our mind is usually so busy carrying on our internal negative dialogue where it is arguing and justifying why it is 'right' and 'should' feel the way it does. But, it is this righteous internal 'Mind Chatter' that keeps us from shifting our attention. Our mind is so focused on proofing that its position is right, that we get stuck there and as a result we feel the STRESS.
Pivoting requires us to become aware of our negative inner dialogue ('Mind Chatter') and learn to shift it into a beneficial dialogue. To do so, we are required to learn and practice 'Acceptance' and 'Allowing' of 'What Is', 'Letting Go' of what we cannot change, 'Forgiving' what we judge, as well as numerous other Tools and/or Lessons in this webBook and beyond.
I intentionally decide to ‘SHIFT MY ATTENTION’ away from the negativity aspect . . . and I choose to MOVE MY ATTENTION to something more positive . . . something (anything) more pleasant.
It sounds like a simple process when described, but it is often not nearly as easy to practice in the 'heat' of the moment. This is because our mind is usually so busy carrying on our internal negative dialogue where it is arguing and justifying why it is 'right' and 'should' feel the way it does. But, it is this righteous internal 'Mind Chatter' that keeps us from shifting our attention. Our mind is so focused on proofing that its position is right, that we get stuck there and as a result we feel the STRESS.
Pivoting requires us to become aware of our negative inner dialogue ('Mind Chatter') and learn to shift it into a beneficial dialogue. To do so, we are required to learn and practice 'Acceptance' and 'Allowing' of 'What Is', 'Letting Go' of what we cannot change, 'Forgiving' what we judge, as well as numerous other Tools and/or Lessons in this webBook and beyond.
But . . . there are so many reasons why I 'should' feel bad or upset !
Yes . . . I know this argument intimately well ! And so the 'Mind Chatter'
convinces us how 'right' it is in feeling the way that it does. What I have noticed is that: So what if I am 'right' ? I still feel bad . . . and I don't want to feel this way, I want to feel better . . . I even want to get to a place where I feel good . . . or at least as good as is possible.
I have learned to ask myself this question: What is the benefit (to me or others) by me feeling bad or being upset about this ? My frequent answer: Stress, unhappiness, adverse effects on my health, and increased conflict within me and inevitably with others. These are benefits I can and want to do without ! On the other hand, what is the benefit to me feeling better ? Exactly the opposite !
Anymore, my choice has become a non-issue, no matter what the subject . . . and I know now that the only thing standing in my way of succeeding at any given moment is my Mind Chatter ! For me this is and will always be . . . a life-long work in progress.
Yes . . . I know this argument intimately well ! And so the 'Mind Chatter'
convinces us how 'right' it is in feeling the way that it does. What I have noticed is that: So what if I am 'right' ? I still feel bad . . . and I don't want to feel this way, I want to feel better . . . I even want to get to a place where I feel good . . . or at least as good as is possible.
I have learned to ask myself this question: What is the benefit (to me or others) by me feeling bad or being upset about this ? My frequent answer: Stress, unhappiness, adverse effects on my health, and increased conflict within me and inevitably with others. These are benefits I can and want to do without ! On the other hand, what is the benefit to me feeling better ? Exactly the opposite !
Anymore, my choice has become a non-issue, no matter what the subject . . . and I know now that the only thing standing in my way of succeeding at any given moment is my Mind Chatter ! For me this is and will always be . . . a life-long work in progress.
Pivoting paves the way in one of two ways . . .
In one way, Pivoting opens an avenue for us to either avoid or release feelings of stress about something that we have no control over or are unable to change. (World events are a good example)
My desire for learning how to pivot came from the awareness that feeling stressed, unhappy, or bad about something that is out of my control is harmful not only to my well-being but also to that of others . . . because when I feel stressed, I inevitably transmit and transfer this Stress Energy to everyone and everything around me. Thus, when I learn how to pivot it benefits me, anyone else involved, as well as anyone else around me.
In one way, Pivoting opens an avenue for us to either avoid or release feelings of stress about something that we have no control over or are unable to change. (World events are a good example)
My desire for learning how to pivot came from the awareness that feeling stressed, unhappy, or bad about something that is out of my control is harmful not only to my well-being but also to that of others . . . because when I feel stressed, I inevitably transmit and transfer this Stress Energy to everyone and everything around me. Thus, when I learn how to pivot it benefits me, anyone else involved, as well as anyone else around me.
The other way Pivoting assists us is when we are able to have some control of some of the factors or we are able to create change in some way. At those times it is much more difficult to do so in a positive way when we are in an emotionally heightened state of stress. (Interactions with people are a good example).
I know from my own experience, when I am first able to pivot myself into a place where I feel better
. . . more calm, with the least amount of stress . . . or ideally not stressed at all (neutral) . . . it becomes much easier to communicate calmly, clearly, and respectfully. Then I am in a place from which I am much more likely to be successful at creating change in a beneficial way that serves everyone . . . and then everyone involved also tends to feel better about the outcome.
I know from my own experience, when I am first able to pivot myself into a place where I feel better
. . . more calm, with the least amount of stress . . . or ideally not stressed at all (neutral) . . . it becomes much easier to communicate calmly, clearly, and respectfully. Then I am in a place from which I am much more likely to be successful at creating change in a beneficial way that serves everyone . . . and then everyone involved also tends to feel better about the outcome.
Although Pivoting is the simplest and quickest way I know of how to get to a better feeling place when we feel stressed about something . . .
I am not at all suggesting that it is always easy to do at that time. This is due to our heightened state of emotion in the moment, often caused by our 'Mind Chatter'. It takes a certain level of self-awareness, skill, and continuous practice to do it successfully.
I am not at all suggesting that it is always easy to do at that time. This is due to our heightened state of emotion in the moment, often caused by our 'Mind Chatter'. It takes a certain level of self-awareness, skill, and continuous practice to do it successfully.
It is also important to realize that pivoting does not solve any issues that may need to addressed by me, it only helps me to feel better in
the moment. Depending on the situation, I may need to look at the 'internals' of why I am feeling stressed in the first place and whether or not there is a repeating negative energy pattern that has developed. If so, it is my task to find ways to break the cycle of this pattern.
There may be some work that I must do, or it will surely repeat in some way, until I do. It is Law !
The work necessary is unique to everyone and it may involve any of the Tools or Lessons in this webBook and beyond.
the moment. Depending on the situation, I may need to look at the 'internals' of why I am feeling stressed in the first place and whether or not there is a repeating negative energy pattern that has developed. If so, it is my task to find ways to break the cycle of this pattern.
There may be some work that I must do, or it will surely repeat in some way, until I do. It is Law !
The work necessary is unique to everyone and it may involve any of the Tools or Lessons in this webBook and beyond.
When can I Pivot ?
Pivoting can be done anytime . . . but optimally, especially in repeating situations, the best time to pivot is at the moment when I feel the disturbance enter my experience. This is my 'Choice Point', where I can intentionally make a conscious choice and decision that I’m not going to go down that path of unpleasantness . . . that I am going to interrupt and replace this unwanted cycle that will otherwise play out.
If for some reason I am unable to pivot successfully in the moment as it is happening . . . I can also practice to do it in retrospect. If I do this often enough, eventually I will train myself to where I am able to do it more often in the moment as it is happening.
Pivoting can be done anytime . . . but optimally, especially in repeating situations, the best time to pivot is at the moment when I feel the disturbance enter my experience. This is my 'Choice Point', where I can intentionally make a conscious choice and decision that I’m not going to go down that path of unpleasantness . . . that I am going to interrupt and replace this unwanted cycle that will otherwise play out.
If for some reason I am unable to pivot successfully in the moment as it is happening . . . I can also practice to do it in retrospect. If I do this often enough, eventually I will train myself to where I am able to do it more often in the moment as it is happening.
Anyone can learn to pivot when they feel stressed, as long as there is willingness and commitment to pay attention to ones thoughts, feelings, and internal dialogue . . . and then be willing and committed to shift them, intentionally !
There are many ways to Pivot . . . but all of them involve removing my attention from the problem and deliberately choosing to shift my attention onto something more positive. This process helps distract
me and it also creates an opening to let go of any unpleasant energy that is trying to get in. Below are some of my favorite tools and techniques, some very similar, that often help me pivot.
You may notice that all of my Pivoting tools and techniques listed here do in some way involve one or more of my Tools and/or Lessons in this webBook. This is, off course, because they are all very intricately inter-connected and their success depends on the practice of them all in one form or another.
me and it also creates an opening to let go of any unpleasant energy that is trying to get in. Below are some of my favorite tools and techniques, some very similar, that often help me pivot.
You may notice that all of my Pivoting tools and techniques listed here do in some way involve one or more of my Tools and/or Lessons in this webBook. This is, off course, because they are all very intricately inter-connected and their success depends on the practice of them all in one form or another.
Some of my favorite Tools and Techniques for Pivoting
I have found my 'Vibrational Guidance Scale' (VGS) to be an invaluable pivoting tool. It is based on a incremental scale of emotions as well as a variety of other common vibrations that we frequently deal with.
The value of this scale to me is that it helps me learn where my approximate level of stress is located at any given moment on this scale . . . and it gives me an idea of how much pivoting I must do in order to get to where I want to go . . . ideally this is where I am satisfied with how I'm feeling.
For me, this point is usually at 'Neutral' or better, but this is often too big of a pivot. Any movement up the scale from where I am is an improvement at any given time, and it is important for me to learn to recognize, value, and congratulate myself for these improvements.
The other benefit of this scale is that it helps me learn to tune into which direction I am moving or want to be moving at any given moment.
Am I making progress in the direction I want to go . . . or am I moving in an unwanted direction ? Am I moving towards more joy and feeling better . . . or am I getting more stressed and feeling worse ? Am I holding steady ? Sometimes just holding steady during a stressful situation is huge progress.
Visit my 'Vibration Is The Key !' page for more details about this scale and the importance of vibrational frequencies.
The value of this scale to me is that it helps me learn where my approximate level of stress is located at any given moment on this scale . . . and it gives me an idea of how much pivoting I must do in order to get to where I want to go . . . ideally this is where I am satisfied with how I'm feeling.
For me, this point is usually at 'Neutral' or better, but this is often too big of a pivot. Any movement up the scale from where I am is an improvement at any given time, and it is important for me to learn to recognize, value, and congratulate myself for these improvements.
The other benefit of this scale is that it helps me learn to tune into which direction I am moving or want to be moving at any given moment.
Am I making progress in the direction I want to go . . . or am I moving in an unwanted direction ? Am I moving towards more joy and feeling better . . . or am I getting more stressed and feeling worse ? Am I holding steady ? Sometimes just holding steady during a stressful situation is huge progress.
Visit my 'Vibration Is The Key !' page for more details about this scale and the importance of vibrational frequencies.
This valuable Pivoting Tool can be used anytime I don’t know what to think, say, or do . . . because there is a good chance that there is a better possible solution when we intentionally look for ways to shift either one of those factors at any given moment.
Asking and contemplating these questions serves multiple functions:
1) It distracts my mind.
2) It assigns a job to my mind.
3) It steers me away from my Mind Chatter.
4) It opens my mind to new possibilities and solutions.
5) It asks for help from the Divine.
Asking and contemplating these questions serves multiple functions:
1) It distracts my mind.
2) It assigns a job to my mind.
3) It steers me away from my Mind Chatter.
4) It opens my mind to new possibilities and solutions.
5) It asks for help from the Divine.
The Good Vibrations Journal (GVJ) is a very powerful pivoting tool that can teach and train us how to Pivot ourselves into a better feeling Vibration. Think of it as a template of options of what we could think, feel, say, or do to help us move in a positive direction. If you are currently finding yourself stuck in a Vibration of Stress and/or Lack more often than a Vibration of Joy and Abundance, you may find this tool valuable. Visit the GVJ page in this webBook and on Facebook to learn more.
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Affirmations, Affirmative Prayers, and Affirmative Guided Meditations all make a great pivoting tool, depending on the situation.
I use Affirmations the most in common day to day situations, because they are usually short and if need be, I can create them in the moment. I use the others on bigger issues that need a deeper level of my attention. Affirmations are often very personal to ones own needs, but here are a few of my favorites. Explore the different Tools and/or Lessons pages for other helpful Affirmations. |
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One of the simplest and quickest way I know how to Pivot is to ‘Remove my Attention’ from whatever negativity that is causing me to feel
stress and simply 'Let It Go'. I 'Don't give it another thought !'
I take decisive action during this 'Choice Point' and I simply decide to ‘RELEASE IT’ as it is happening . . . before it can cause any damage
. . . and I can then either take my attention back to where it was before the disruption entered . . . or I can give my Attention to something entirely different . . . something more pleasant.
stress and simply 'Let It Go'. I 'Don't give it another thought !'
I take decisive action during this 'Choice Point' and I simply decide to ‘RELEASE IT’ as it is happening . . . before it can cause any damage
. . . and I can then either take my attention back to where it was before the disruption entered . . . or I can give my Attention to something entirely different . . . something more pleasant.
Wisdom is to know when to stop arguing with someone . . .
Pivoting is the implementation of this wisdom.
A more visual technique to Pivot is to Release the Negativity in my minds eye; by allowing it to pass through me and then Exit my Body and my Being ! I then replace the empty Space left by the Negativity with the feeling of Appreciation for something . . . (anything) which naturally releases the Resistance of the negativity !
In that moment, I am pulling towards me all things that I consider to be good in a very powerful way.
In that moment, I am pulling towards me all things that I consider to be good in a very powerful way.
At certain times it works for me to simply shift my awareness by tuning into the Frequency of my Heart Chakra . . . and as I do so I am tuning into everything that is Good ! The Vibrational Frequency of my Heart will never lead me wrong and therefore this practice always helps me get back into Alignment with a better feeling.
Start with Heart - Stay with Heart is my often my intention, especially when it comes to stressful conversations. As long as I speak from the heart I will be more likely to stay calm, factual, and respectful towards myself and others as I am communicating with them under stress.
Start with Heart - Stay with Heart is my often my intention, especially when it comes to stressful conversations. As long as I speak from the heart I will be more likely to stay calm, factual, and respectful towards myself and others as I am communicating with them under stress.
One way to pivot is to remove my attention from the stress factor and then intentionally shift my attention to 'Something that makes my Heart Sing'. . . something that always makes me feel good . . . something that makes me feel happy.
I have a mental list of things handy that work for me in such situations.
Often they are just simple thoughts of gratitude and appreciation for something or other. Those thoughts always help me gain perspective.
I have a mental list of things handy that work for me in such situations.
Often they are just simple thoughts of gratitude and appreciation for something or other. Those thoughts always help me gain perspective.
A similar technique to Pivot is where . . . my Attention stays on the situation that is happening . . . but I ‘Remove my Attention’ from the stressful aspect of it as I intentionally ‘Shift my Attention’ to turning the negativity of the situation around into something more and more positive . . . by looking for and finding ‘Positive Aspects’ within the situation or the subject.
With a little practice this can often be done on the spot, when we are giving it our full Attention. However, if we are new to this, it can be very helpful to write these down a few times. The Pivot Path Tool Chest below can offer some tools and ideas on how to go about this.
With a little practice this can often be done on the spot, when we are giving it our full Attention. However, if we are new to this, it can be very helpful to write these down a few times. The Pivot Path Tool Chest below can offer some tools and ideas on how to go about this.
When I am giving my full attention to a problem . . . most often it turns out to be just Mind Chatter, and the problem actually magnifies . . . but when I give my full attention to possible solutions,
I am pivoting (shifting) away from MC into a beneficial direction.
The solution may be internal or external . . . it may be action or in-action . . . it may only be a solution for this moment . . . and it may be as simple as 'Forgiving' or 'Letting Go' of something . . . or Accepting and Allowing 'What Is'.
I am pivoting (shifting) away from MC into a beneficial direction.
The solution may be internal or external . . . it may be action or in-action . . . it may only be a solution for this moment . . . and it may be as simple as 'Forgiving' or 'Letting Go' of something . . . or Accepting and Allowing 'What Is'.
My ‘Pivot Path’ (listed below) is a tool chest filled with tools that can assist me in learning how to Pivot when I want to improve my Pivoting skills or when I am stuck. It creates a pathway, that walks me through incremental steps . . . where I can train myself to contemplate different questions and discover positive aspects, set intentions, and write affirmations to help me gain clarity and give me direction . . . so that I can move myself forward from where I don’t want to be to where I do want to be.
This path helps me look in the direction of what I want and I give this thought my FULL Attention
. . . to look for and find Positive Aspects that will help me get there.
I can practice to use any of these tools just mentally, or I can write things out. It doesn't really matter how I do it, what matters is that I remember that I have them available and that I can learn to use them when I need them.
Not all of the steps listed here are necessary, especially not all of the time, and with some practice we can learn to use whatever tool(s) we need in the moment. Using the entire path, may however be very helpful for more difficult situations, especially when we need more clarity about what the real issue is and how we can alter our way of thinking and responding when it arises . . . or when we simply wish to train ourselves.
Please Note: This pathway is how to create a change in me and how I respond to my environment or my mind chatter, it is not about how to change others.
This path helps me look in the direction of what I want and I give this thought my FULL Attention
. . . to look for and find Positive Aspects that will help me get there.
I can practice to use any of these tools just mentally, or I can write things out. It doesn't really matter how I do it, what matters is that I remember that I have them available and that I can learn to use them when I need them.
Not all of the steps listed here are necessary, especially not all of the time, and with some practice we can learn to use whatever tool(s) we need in the moment. Using the entire path, may however be very helpful for more difficult situations, especially when we need more clarity about what the real issue is and how we can alter our way of thinking and responding when it arises . . . or when we simply wish to train ourselves.
Please Note: This pathway is how to create a change in me and how I respond to my environment or my mind chatter, it is not about how to change others.
My 'Pivot Path' starts when something or someone is 'triggering' some stressful thought or feeling in me, and I make an intentional choice that 'I don't want to continue to feel that way' ! 'I want to feel another way . . . a way that feels better than it will feel if I continue on the path I am on . . . or the path that is about to play out' . . . or 'I want to feel as Good as is possible' given what it is ! In these situations, I have learned that 'there is always a better way' and I am committed to finding it and do what I can to move myself in that 'better feeling' direction !
The better I feel . . . the better life is for me and everyone around me.
The better I feel . . . the better life is for me and everyone around me.
I start by looking at the problem and work down the path according to my needs:
Answer the Questions on the left side of the page (in this color)
Explanations of the questions are given on the right side of the question (in this color)
I no longer want (or I don’t want) . . . Answering this question helps me identify and clarify ‘what I
do want' when I am not clear about or, when I don’t know
what it is that I want.
I do want . . . Is the opposite of what ‘I No Longer Want’.
because . . . Answers the Q: Why do I want this ? The ‘Why’ is about 'how do I
want to feel when I have it' ? This tool discovers my Motivation.
Wouldn’t it be nice if . . . It is a tool that lowers my Resistance by stimulating my
Imagination and Creativity to find ‘Best Case Scenarios’.
Or . . . What if . . . It is a tool that lowers my Resistance another step by stimulating my
Imagination and Creativity. It helps me find and contemplate
even more positive possibilities.
I could . . . This stimulates and brings up options and solutions.
I can . . . Is a step more decisive.
I intent to. . . I turn it into a powerful Intention that steers me in a clear direction.
I intent to do my best to . . .This will step it down to a smaller step when a solid intent feels to big.
A note of Caution: using 'doing my best' can be very helpful at
times however, it can easily become a 'cop- out' !
I intent to find a way to . . .This will step it down into a smaller step where the mind is
assigned a job to search for possible solutions.
I intent to do my best . . . to find a way . . . This will break it down into a even smaller step and it assigns the job of finding solutions to the mind.
I must . . . Is a more decisive declaration of Commitment and Determination.
I must find a way . . . This breaks it down into a smaller step where the mind is
assigned a job to search for possible solutions.
I will . . . Is a Commitment . . . a Resolve to my Intention.
I will do my best . . . This breaks it down into a smaller step.
I will find a way . . . This breaks it down into a smaller step where the mind is
assigned a job to search for possible solutions.
I will do my best . . . to find a way . . . Breaks it down into a smaller step and assigns
the job of finding solutions to the mind.
Wouldn’t it be nice if . . . This step, as well as some other steps, can be repeated and/or
used in any order that feels right for my situation.
Or . . . What if . . .
I would like the experience of . . . This could become an Affirmative Prayer . . . where I ask for
help from the Divine, but it can stand alone as well.
I am (now) . . . I Write an Affirmation to create and help me hold a vision.
Write a Script . . . (like a Guided Meditation) where I describe and then practice to hold a longer, more detailed Best Case Scenario Vision of what I would like to have and how good it feels to have it ! Not how good it will feel when I have it . . . but how good it feels to have it ! ! !
Answer the Questions on the left side of the page (in this color)
Explanations of the questions are given on the right side of the question (in this color)
I no longer want (or I don’t want) . . . Answering this question helps me identify and clarify ‘what I
do want' when I am not clear about or, when I don’t know
what it is that I want.
I do want . . . Is the opposite of what ‘I No Longer Want’.
because . . . Answers the Q: Why do I want this ? The ‘Why’ is about 'how do I
want to feel when I have it' ? This tool discovers my Motivation.
Wouldn’t it be nice if . . . It is a tool that lowers my Resistance by stimulating my
Imagination and Creativity to find ‘Best Case Scenarios’.
Or . . . What if . . . It is a tool that lowers my Resistance another step by stimulating my
Imagination and Creativity. It helps me find and contemplate
even more positive possibilities.
I could . . . This stimulates and brings up options and solutions.
I can . . . Is a step more decisive.
I intent to. . . I turn it into a powerful Intention that steers me in a clear direction.
I intent to do my best to . . .This will step it down to a smaller step when a solid intent feels to big.
A note of Caution: using 'doing my best' can be very helpful at
times however, it can easily become a 'cop- out' !
I intent to find a way to . . .This will step it down into a smaller step where the mind is
assigned a job to search for possible solutions.
I intent to do my best . . . to find a way . . . This will break it down into a even smaller step and it assigns the job of finding solutions to the mind.
I must . . . Is a more decisive declaration of Commitment and Determination.
I must find a way . . . This breaks it down into a smaller step where the mind is
assigned a job to search for possible solutions.
I will . . . Is a Commitment . . . a Resolve to my Intention.
I will do my best . . . This breaks it down into a smaller step.
I will find a way . . . This breaks it down into a smaller step where the mind is
assigned a job to search for possible solutions.
I will do my best . . . to find a way . . . Breaks it down into a smaller step and assigns
the job of finding solutions to the mind.
Wouldn’t it be nice if . . . This step, as well as some other steps, can be repeated and/or
used in any order that feels right for my situation.
Or . . . What if . . .
I would like the experience of . . . This could become an Affirmative Prayer . . . where I ask for
help from the Divine, but it can stand alone as well.
I am (now) . . . I Write an Affirmation to create and help me hold a vision.
Write a Script . . . (like a Guided Meditation) where I describe and then practice to hold a longer, more detailed Best Case Scenario Vision of what I would like to have and how good it feels to have it ! Not how good it will feel when I have it . . . but how good it feels to have it ! ! !
A good practice is to use this path, or pieces of it, throughout the day . . . when things that either have a potential to cause me stress or have already developed into a stressful situation are showing up. I can also practice and hone my skills when I use this path in retrospect . . . as it can help me see how I could have Pivoted in a previous situation. This allows me to be better prepared for next time . . . and I know there is likely to be a next time ! ! !
When I use this path in its entirety it takes me a while to complete it. I take the time that I need to really think about, contemplate, and write down everything that I can think of that applies and that I want to remember to work on. It is best to really give it my full attention for an hour or so each day, for a few days. This will really help my mind focus in on it and contemplate possible obstacles, options, and possibilities that may have gone unnoticed before.
I will go through the questions a number of times and I add, delete, and refine them as needed. At the same time I start to take action on whatever I have discovered that would help me move in the direction I want to go. In other words, I don't wait until I have all the answers completed before I start moving forward; implementing what I discover.
When I use this path in its entirety it takes me a while to complete it. I take the time that I need to really think about, contemplate, and write down everything that I can think of that applies and that I want to remember to work on. It is best to really give it my full attention for an hour or so each day, for a few days. This will really help my mind focus in on it and contemplate possible obstacles, options, and possibilities that may have gone unnoticed before.
I will go through the questions a number of times and I add, delete, and refine them as needed. At the same time I start to take action on whatever I have discovered that would help me move in the direction I want to go. In other words, I don't wait until I have all the answers completed before I start moving forward; implementing what I discover.
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